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September 23rd, 2009 at 9:42 am
I agree with Tamsen …
I agree with Tamsen, not with Matt.
September 23rd, 2009 at 9:42 am
YES…if you are …
YES…if you are going to rebuild that trust you HAVE TO TELL HIM there is simply no excuse not too, sooner or later he will ask, and you will look like a fool for not confessing it earlier
September 23rd, 2009 at 9:42 am
With whom?
With whom?
September 23rd, 2009 at 9:42 am
With the moral of …
With the moral of the video. If you cheat, best thing to do is probably accept responsibility but at the same time you might not want to tell your spouse.
September 23rd, 2009 at 9:42 am
Yeah, he needs to …
Yeah, he needs to hear the truth keeping him from the truth is a big fat dick thing to do.
September 23rd, 2009 at 9:42 am
Tell him and hope …
Tell him and hope he doesn’t beat the out of you.
September 23rd, 2009 at 9:42 am
Cheating is …
Cheating is superficial B.S. that doesnt exist, the whole idea of cheating just never really made any sense to me at all If you make each other feel as though you have to lie and go behind each others backs just to live your life and do what you both need to do because your both insecure about it, Is it even worth being in that relationship? Personally Its a big turn off for me = S
September 23rd, 2009 at 9:42 am
DONT TELL HIM!!!
DONT TELL HIM!!!
September 23rd, 2009 at 9:42 am
i say come clean …
i say come clean with the situation ’cause it will bite you in the later on in life. if the guy leaves you than that should open your mind on how dumb and naive you was to do something stupid. if he stays with you than it still opens your mind on what a retarded thing you did and not do it again. after that build onto it ’cause it be awhile to be back to way it was unless he fast forgiving person.
September 23rd, 2009 at 9:42 am
100% absolutely …
100% absolutely agreed!
September 23rd, 2009 at 9:42 am
What the fuck? This …
What the fuck? This and the “should girls propose” advice suck. Lying is such a dick move, especially with cheating… just because it’ll spare the relationship, doesn’t mean it’s a good idea to LIE. That relationship is based on a lie for about a year… I’m close to unsubscribing.
September 23rd, 2009 at 9:42 am
Cheating is just …
Cheating is just something that makes no sense.
September 23rd, 2009 at 9:42 am
Matt has a point… …
Matt has a point…but…relationships are built on trust and honesty. She needs to come clean doing her part…and then it’s up to the guy to see if he can handle it or not.
September 23rd, 2009 at 9:42 am
Unfortunately it’s …
Unfortunately it’s better not if you tell him, but I hope he finds out that you’re a cheating and dumps your ass. So much of a lack of integrity and honesty in people these days. If there were a hell, I’d condemn you to rot in it, assholes.
September 23rd, 2009 at 9:42 am
it makes plenty …
it makes plenty sense…its wrong but it makes perfect sense
September 23rd, 2009 at 9:42 am
this is a …
this is a fascinating debate and I understand both sides. Don’t subject your husband to more hurt and just move on from here OR tell him the truth and try to rebuild.
September 23rd, 2009 at 9:42 am
I agree with what …
I agree with what Matt said. Although it’s not right to lie it would most likely only hurt the relationship to tell the truth. If the woman has learned a lesson and agreed with herself to remain faithful to her husband, then now she can concentrate on fixing her current relationship with him than going over with him how sorry she is. Because she knows she’s sorry, and why subject your husband to hurt feelings and then try and make him get over it?
September 23rd, 2009 at 9:42 am
Don’t tell. All it …
Don’t tell. All it does is create a lot of hurt feelings and confusion. But do stop and think if this is going to become a recurring situation, and if it is, have the guts to break it off.
Otherwise, make a commitment to yourself to make a commitment to the relationship and make it stick.
September 23rd, 2009 at 9:42 am
I say tell him that …
I say tell him that you cheated on him and then wait for him to say:
“F**k you, I deserve better than a cheating whore!”
Then leave ya! =D
September 23rd, 2009 at 9:42 am
i would tell him.
i would tell him.
September 23rd, 2009 at 9:42 am
No MAN want to be …
No MAN want to be with a WHORE !!!
The Man Who Know his Wife or Girlfriend Cheated and he still is with Her
is a COWARD not a MAN !!!
September 23rd, 2009 at 9:42 am
A relationship …
A relationship should be based on trust and not coming 100% clean about it is just wrong and you’ll be living a lie for the rest of your life..
Come clean! If he leaves you because of it, its your own fault and you should deal with the consequences of your actions. if he decides to stay, its more then you deserve and should be thankful and make sure not to cheat on that person again.
September 23rd, 2009 at 9:42 am
mat is such a …
mat is such a player – you think he is cheating… i do. lololol
September 23rd, 2009 at 9:42 am
don’t tell him. do …
don’t tell him. do not.
a relationship is not based on truth. thats bull. it’s constructed on carefully planned and orchastrized lies. it’s a beautiful thing.
September 23rd, 2009 at 9:42 am
my mum was having …
my mum was having an affair for years, and i was the only one who knew. i couldnt tell my dad because i thought that he would divorce my mum and i was really scared how this would affect my little brother. but recently he found out about it and him and mum are getting counselling.
so i think you should tell him and deal with the consequences, he obviously loves you enough to want to continue this relationship. but you have to accept the outcome as your fault.